Daily Dad Challenge

I've been listening to The Daily Stoic for a while now and recently bought a book from the host, Ryan Holiday. The Daily Dad.  As we go through 2025, I'll keep this updated with my brief thoughts on each day's entry/reading.

Jan 1 Thoughts

I think about how my children watch and repeat what I do. They repeat my words and actions in ways that surprise me. It's kept me from using "adult" language as much while we are in traffic. 

Jan 2 Thoughts

This entry talked about our actions at home (in private) showing the way for kids to act and behave elsewhere. Reminds me that it is my job to be the mature and calm person in the house, at all times.

Jan 3 Thoughts

This entry discussed more about showcasing the traits we want to pass on versus talking through the traits with the kids. We may get frustrated that our kids don't listen, but they do watch everything we do.  So, we need to do a better job showcasing actions. I think also, maybe I need to be a bit more vocal a bout what I am doing (in a positive way), such as saying, "I'll do this specific chore so someone else doesn't have to do it." Perhaps they hear something along those lines, trigger something to pay attention and then see me take an action that is helpful, etc.

Jan 4 Thoughts

This entry discussed how we act in times of unfortunate or negative situations, our kids see how we act during hard or difficult times. We cannot let external events change who we are or what ethical fabric we have woven. In these hard situations, it is important to showcase the appropriate way to react and why.  I talk to my two teenage girls at home about how they cannot control how other kids act at school. They cannot control the words spoken, actions taken, and so forth. Instead, they can control how they react to these things. Being a teenager is tough, but I keep preaching these words.  Hopefully they see how I act out this philosophy as well, as best as I may.

Jan 5 Thoughts

This entry discussed, or rather asked, if we are going to haunt or inspire our kids once they have left our house and once we have passed on. I think about how I am laying a foundation, and helping them build their own foundation, for life.  I think about the struggle of a butterfly to emerge from the cocoon - if not for the struggle to emerge, they could not fly.  When and how do I support my kids and when and how do I allow them to struggle  and learn?  I am often in the same scenario - how do they see me reacting to this.  In addition, what am I leaving them with when I am no longer here?  Not just a possession or money, but what part of me will linger behind to support them and not haunt them.  

Jan 6 Thoughts

This entry focused on putting pictures on my walls, pics of my kids and family. It is to remind me why I am doing the things I am doing, why do I continue to work toward success. Well, sure there is a bit of self fulfillment, but really, it is to provide and showcase to my family that I value and prioritize them.  it made me realize I need more pictures in my office of my family.